“𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗧𝗼 𝗘𝗻𝗱 𝗨𝗽 𝗥𝗶𝗰𝗵, 𝗦𝗲𝘅𝘆 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗙𝗶𝘁 𝗜𝗻 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲… … 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗜𝗳 𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗜𝗻 𝗔 𝗧𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗦𝗽𝗼𝘁 𝗥𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗡𝗼𝘄!”

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I’ve been a copywriter long enough to know what people want.

People want instant gratification. They want a trick that will change their life. They want a pill that will lose them 10 pounds.

So when others tell me that “I’m keeping it real” as a compliment, I wonder, am I doing myself a favor, or am I making life hard?

Because I know all the tricks in the book, I can lie too about copywriting, life, and results. I can humble brag until the end of time.

Something inside of me prevents me from doing so.

I don’t want to be seen as fake, and I don’t want to be appreciated and loved for who I’m not. I know nothing online is as it seems, and I’m not stupid enough to tell you about all the stupid things I’m doing…

… but I can’t give or teach fiction.

It just doesn’t feel right. So, I tell things as I think they are. Sometimes, many times, they’re wrong. It doesn’t make it right because I’m confident in what I say. But it comes from a good place.

And with this intro being done, I want to tell you the main reason why your life sucks, and why my life sucks at times too, why everyone’s life sucks.

This is a misalignment between you and your goals.

Between you and the person you project to be.

Between your actions and your desired outcomes.

I’ll explain and get ready because this will be a long post…

𝗙𝗜𝗥𝗦𝗧…

Setting goals is one thing. Accomplishing them is another.

You can set the goal to run 30 kilometers per week. A month passes, and you run once for 1.5 kilometers. You can set a goal to write a book in 90 days. After 45 days, you’ve completed only 3000 words.

I’m so guilty of this.

I set ambitious goals, but I accomplished only a tiny fraction of them. My life is still good despite not accomplishing most of my goals, which shows the power of intentionality. If accomplishing 25% of what I set my mind to results in this, how would 50% or 75% look?

The number one reason why people don’t set goals or give up on setting goals is that they don’t accomplish them. After all, if you know you’ll fail, why bother with them? Why set standards for your life that will end up being broken anyway?

But I believe you should set goals. You should have standards for yourself. Because…

… failing at a goal you approach with intentionality is still better than succeeding at having no goals.

If I set a goal to write one article per day for one month, and I write only 14 articles…

… I’m still better off than not writing at all.

𝗦𝗘𝗖𝗢𝗡𝗗…

Having goals and having them misaligned with your daily actions is just wishful thinking.

It’s like saying you’ll save money but spending all you have.

Or saying that you’ll be productive but not working hard.

It doesn’t work.

To accomplish any goal, big or small, you need a set of supporting behaviors. Some people call these systems, while others call them habits and rituals. They are actions you repeat regularly.

I have a daily plan.

This is a step-by-step system of what to do each day. It has steps 1, step 2, step 3, and so on, from the start to the finish of the day.

By following this system, I progress towards my significant goals. I also renew and relax as I build self-care into my system.

If your goal is to lose weight, you’d better have daily habits and rituals to support it. Otherwise, it’s wishful thinking.

𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗥𝗗…

Nothing will ever go perfectly according to your plan.

You’ll have good days in which you’ll flow.

You’ll have bad days in which you feel like giving up.

It’s okay to give up for a day or even longer if you return to your goal and pursue it.

Whenever disaster hits my life relatively often, I tell myself, “Let’s get back to normal as soon as possible.” I can’t change the damage done. I can’t change that life, which hit hard.

I can only change the direction of my life from that point.

𝗙𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗧𝗛…

Trust the system.

I don’t know what you believe in, God or something else. But if you put in the work, the reward will come. It will often come from the most unexpected sources, but it will come.

Good things happen to those who execute and are daring, moving forward.

What if I told you I’ll give you a million dollars if you invest 1000 hours into a specific project? That the money is guaranteed to be yours? Is it in a bank account waiting for you?

And I show you proof of the money.

Would you invest 1000 hours into that project?

I would because I would know why I’m doing what I’m doing.

Life, unfortunately, doesn’t work this way. Nobody is telling you what the reward is. Or how long it will take. Or give you certainty.

You can only have faith. You can only see what worked for others and expect it to work for you.

I can’t promise that reading one book per week will make you smarter and wiser. But I can tell you that most people who did grew a lot and evolved.

I can’t promise you that you’ll become prosperous as an entrepreneur, but I can tell you that many entrepreneurs have made a lot of money and bought their freedom, which might apply to you, too.

I can’t promise you that posting content on Facebook will attract clients, but in my experience, it does. Maybe it will be for you, too.

Maybe.

I don’t know.

Life doesn’t come with promises. Confidence is nothing more than having absolute faith in the outcome, but even then, it’s flawed. Just having confidence that something will happen doesn’t change the sacred probability behind it happening or not.

𝗙𝗜𝗙𝗧𝗛…

You are one meter away from diamonds.

Or you’re not.

Again, I don’t know.

There’s this example in Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Someone mining for gold stops just one meter away from a fortune.

And surprisingly (or not), life works this way. Many times, giving it one more try, putting in one more hour, sending one more message, and trying one more time is enough to get results.

This is why I’ll continue to work until midnight, though I don’t feel like it.

Sometimes, it’s all in that last rep that makes all the difference.

𝗦𝗵𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁:

Set goals and make sure your actions align with what you want to accomplish. Then, act with certainty that you’re heading somewhere, even without proof. Many times (but not always), you’ll get there.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂?

𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀? 𝗢𝗿 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲?

Best regards,

Razvan